I was happily married in a relationship that had been faithful almost two decades, and preparing for a 19 city speaking tour for my first book, when I learned that my husband had an affair. My husband’s affair left me feeling shocked, devastated, heart-broken, deeply hurt, angry.

And I couldn’t stop asking myself “why?”

Fast forward three months. I had slipped into a pattern: Unable to get out of bed. I was averaging over twenty hours a day under the covers.

I felt like I wanted to die.


All total, the shock of learning about my husband’s affair sent me into a two-year tailspin of anger, depression and isolation. As a result, my business suffered, my health suffered, and—most heartbreaking for me—my relationships with my children suffered.

Even so, I was lucky. I did eventually heal the pain, forgive, and find genuine peace-of-mind.

Some people hang onto the pain of betrayal for a lifetime. The effects show up on their faces, deep in their bodies and in their future relationships. I was blessed to have found a way out that not only healed me, but left me feeling happier and more desirable than I had ever felt.


I want you to know that no matter what your specific circumstances or what you’re feeling, if you are suffering from the fallout of your partner’s affair and you are ready to heal…you have come to the right place.

Healing from the trauma of betrayal and learning to feel genuinely happy and peaceful is not easy to do, but it is absolutely possible.I know, because I did it. And you can too.

You can turn resentment and fear into genuine happiness.

You can turn the pain of victimhood into authentic empowerment.

You can actually turn his cheating into the best thing that ever happened to you.

I realize that is a bold statement. It might even upset you. But if you are more intrigued than upset by that promise, then you’ve taken the first powerful step on your path of healing.


The phrase, “Time Heals All Wounds” is a widely-accepted cultural belief. You may have well-meaning family and friends telling you this right now. Unfortunately, not only are these words not helpful, they’re also not true. Time—by itself—will not heal you. It’s what you do with the time that determines whether you will heal, or carry these wounds into your future life, and relationships. In fact, I’ve found that it’s more accurate to say that “Time Cements All Wounds”….IF you don’t take the essential steps to heal.

These essential steps are what I teach to the courageous souls whose time has come, who are ready to use this extraordinarily painful event—their partner’s cheating – as a catalyst for growth. Would you like to feel stronger? Would you like to stop feeling unimportant and “less than”? Or maybe even find the courage to powerfully walk away?


The majority of programs out there are designed to help you save your marriage or “get him back.” I am very much for saving your marriage if that is for your highest good. However, that’s not the focus of Heal from the Affair. This program is about getting YOU back. The good news is that if you do want to save your marriage, the most important step you can take is getting yourself back. From that place, you can then make an empowered decision about whether or not you want to leave your marriage or stay.

After the affair, we have an important choice to make. We can shrink back into deeper levels of despair, or choose to step forward into the woman we truly are, were truly meant to be. I know this…crisis can transform us. We can emerge from the heartbreak of an affair and move on to create a new life, a life even better than we had before. I invite you take the first step on the path of transformation. I’ll be there supporting you all the way.

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“Vickie, I found you at the lowest, deepest and darkest place in my life…That I found you is a miracle and a gift from the Universe. Your teachings have helped me to restore my self-esteem and self-confidence. I have changed from a meek and timid broken wife to a strong and courageous woman. I have found an inner strength that didn’t exist after the affair. Not only did it not exist, I never thought it would be regained. I am healthier mentally because of your teachings. I truly appreciate your wisdom and guidance.”

- Michele M.

“I felt safe and acknowledged…I am so grateful for you Vickie and the work we did together. I have tools now to move forward into a better life, and to be an example to my children of what it means to take responsibility.”

- H.B.